Monday, December 17, 2018

Romantic Adventures

When I imagine Dan and I having a date night, I imagine us getting dressed up and walking down to the beach to something like this....





But the truth and reality is the only time we dress up is for church, and we don't consider a date successful unless there is some sort of adventure or risk involved. Consider the time we biked Cade's Cove in Tennessee. We biked thirteen miles and saw about a dozen black bears. The incident that stands out most is when a momma and her three cubs crossed the road in front of us. The momma thought we were a little too close to her babies and started walking towards us encouraging us in bear language to "back off." We obliged. I was trying to video the whole thing while backing away on my bike rather quickly. She kept coming towards us and we, of course, kept backing away. Later when we viewed my proudly taken video, it looked like one of those Big Foot sighting videos where you are not sure if the person holding the video camera is videoing the sky, the ground, or the trees. There's usually not even a Big Foot in sight, or at least not an identifiable one. I guess I lose my cool (and my video skills) when a momma bear is chasing me. 

The next year we biked Dogwood Canyon in Missouri. This is a fabulous place with creeks, waterfalls and beautiful vegetation. But, when we left we felt indifferent about the whole event. Something was missing. I looked at Dan and asked, "What was missing, why didn't it feel like a great date?." "Bears," he said, "Bears chasing us." That was it. There was no adventure. 

So.....this spring when we were in Florida, instead of having a romantic meal on the beach like the beautiful picture above ☝ we opted for kayaking in the ocean. 

Our adventure started when I bought a voucher online from Bob, the kayak guy. He was a little hard to get ahold of, but he assured us our adventure was all set. We were supposed to be at the kayak shop at 9:00 on a Friday morning. Forgetting about Florida traffic, we were running a little late and arrived about 9:15. No one was there. We knocked. Nothing. We rang the bell. Nothing. "You better call," Dan said to me. I dialed up Bob, who surprisingly answered his phone. "Um, we had an appointment for 9:00 to take a kayak out on the bay," I said. "Oh, I had to run some errands so I stuck your kayak out on the beach," Bob replied. "Ok.... " I stammered. "We're just supposed to go for it?" "Yes, it's all sitting on the beach," Bob said with a lot more confidence than I was feeling. We hung up, and I turned to Dan, "Our kayak is on the beach, and we're just supposed to go for it." 

We found said kayak down by an area of oyster beds. I have never seen oyster beds before, so I didn't realize what we were looking at. "Look at all these cool shells!" I squealed. I'm pretty easily entertained. So while Dan was trying to get the kayak in the water  I was walking all over the poor oyster bed looking for shells.

Dan complains often when we kayak together that he does all the work. I don't think that this is a fair assessment though, because I do pack the cooler. I also occasionally yell, "PADDLE FASTER" when there is something I really want to see. 

I climbed in the kayak and we began our adventure. I had read reviews online that people had seen dolphins, manatee, and sting rays in this particular bay - on top of the birds in the mangroves, and we were hoping to see all of it. 

We started our journey off in the mangroves, which are small trees that grow in the water and along the shore. (I've included this short description because I had no idea before we went.) The branches are very unique, and the water where they grow is extremely shallow. It was so  beautiful kayaking along this area. The water was crystal clear, and the shells were abundant. I wanted to bring back some of the bigger shells we were seeing, but we wanted to be careful not to collect ones with living creatures still in them. 

As we, um I mean Dan, was paddling along I saw the most perfectly white spiral shell about two feet down in the water. "Stop!" I yelled. It's actually hard to stop a moving kayak in the water, but Dan's pretty amazing so he started paddling backwards. "What is it?" he said. "That shell. I want to take it home to the kids," I said as I pointed in the water behind us. Dan dutifully paddled back and reached into the water with his long arms and pulled up the most perfect shell. It was beautiful. He handed it up to me in the front of the boat. I started to turn it over as I was admiring how perfectly shaped it was. As I turned it, all of the sudden a "creature" jumped out of the opening in the shell and landed on my leg. I did what any self respecting woman would do and screamed while hurling the shell without it's "creature" back into the water. "What are you doing?" Dan asked me incredulously. "I just got that for you!" "It...it...it jumped out on me!!" I said. "What did?" he asked. "The creature!!!" I exclaimed. "Well, why did you throw the shell back in the water?" He asked. I thought that was a dumb question at the moment, because who knows how many other "creatures" might be living in that shell! I carefully looked down at my leg where the "creature" had landed. "I didn't know those things could fall out of their shells so easily," I commented as Dan leaned up in the boat to have a look. "It's mud, Babe," he retorted. "Mud." "Mud?" I said sheepishly. "I knew that." 

Would you go find my shell again?" I asked as I picked up a paddle and pretended to help. 

After collecting a fair amount of shells, we paddled out into the open waters of the bay. We hadn't seen any creatures besides crabs, conchs, and oysters up this point, and we were ready to see some larger things. As we rounded the corner a dolphin jumped off to the right of our boat. We both grabbed our paddles (I did actually help this time) and began paddling in the direction of the dolphin. Soon we saw another one! The were jumping and playing in the water as we got closer and closer. All of the sudden they turned towards us, and I began to wonder if dolphins would try to sink kayaks! Probably not, but I have some crazy thoughts at times. The dolphins began to swim around us and under our kayak. It was amazing! They are some of the most beautiful, graceful creatures of the ocean.

After following the dolphins for a fair bit, we decided we should probably turn back before getting too far from the beach. As we (Dan) were paddling back, we came across a tour boat. Now, we know when we are out of our element in knowing, or not knowing, the territory, so we pulled up by the boat to see how much of the tour we could catch. Before you judge, we didn't exactly attach ourselves to the side of the boat or anything, but just got close enough that we could hear the guide point out things to the tourists. Sure enough, this plan paid off! We heard one of the guides yell, "There's a momma manatee with a baby!" No one looked, but us. Everyone on the boat had gotten off onto a sandbar to look for sand dollars. We headed in the direction the lady had been pointing, and shortly saw two large creatures shooting through the water. We were able to keep up with them (no thanks to me) and paddled alongside of them for quite awhile. When they would surface for air, you could see how large these sea cows really are! I began to get a little nervous as to how they felt about us kayaking alongside them. I've never heard of anyone being flipped by a manatee, but I certainly didn't want to make the news by being the first.




We paddled back over to the sandbar to see what we could find there. We didn't see any sand dollars, mainly because we didn't know what we were looking for. But, we did find the largest conch shell I had ever seen! This one definitely had a "creature" in it! This creature stayed put though, as Dan picked up the shell for a picture. 


The day pretty much had been perfect., and our time was running short before we needed to get the kayak back to Bob. We stopped at one more oyster bed to look for shells with no creatures in them. We didn't realize how sharp oyster shells are until we looked down and noticed Dan's foot was bleeding. He hadn't even realized he had cut it. The blood was flowing pretty well. "You know," I said sympathetically, "We've seen almost everything we wanted to see today.....except sharks." 

"Maybe I could actually paddle this time," I continued, "and you could hang your bleeding foot in the water." Dan looked at me like I was crazy. "Well, wouldn't it be exciting to see sharks?" I asked rather defensively 

We paddled back to the shore with Dan's bleeding foot safely in the kayak. I'm sure he'll regret that decision someday when he thinks back on the sharks we could have seen. 

We ended our kayaking adventure by purchasing a 6 foot kayak from Bob, (who did finally come home from his errands) and somehow managing to fit it inside our mini van.

 What good is an adventure anyway, if you can't bring home a souvenir! 

Sunday, April 1, 2018

A Privilege to Serve

So, I'm sick today. On Easter. I love Easter - celebrating the resurrection of my Savior, Jesus Christ is something I look forward to for months. I love being at church with everyone, worshiping God, and remembering the greatest miracle of all time.

For the first time in my life, I'm missing Easter Sunday. We got a nasty stomach bug this week, and it decided to linger with me. This is a huge disappointment for me.

I play the piano for our church. It's a wonderful way for me to be able to express worship. I've been doing it for years, and I love it. I especially enjoy playing on holidays when we get to sing songs that you don't sing any other time of year.

Last night when I was realizing that it was pretty unlikely for me to make it to church this morning, I began to argue with God. "Lord," I said, "I need to be there to play the piano in the morning. It's a big day for church with lots of visitors, and I need to help make the service run smoothly. I need to be there to do my job...for You!"

God gently reminded me that He doesn't NEED me at all. God has a purpose, and He will accomplish it. It is a privilege that He lets me be a part of His work, but Easter Sunday going well has nothing to do with me and everything to do with God.

God took me in my pride thinking that I am a vital part of what He's doing to humbly on my knees thanking Him that He allows me to be a small part of what He's doing at all.

Serving God is a privilege. A sacred privilege. 

God owns everything and He knows the most talented people in the world. He doesn't need us to get His work done. In fact, He doesn't need us at all - remember that if we don't praise Him, the rocks will. (Luke 19:40) God will accomplish what He has set out to do. But, oh how blessed and privileged we are that He chooses to use us, and allows us to be a part in so many ways to help spread the message of Jesus Christ!

Are you helping widows and orphans? Are you caring for the poor? Are you helping the helpless? Are you serving in your church? (even in a small ways?) Are you sharing the Gospel? Are you feeding the hungry? Do you remember the forgotten? Are you sponsoring missionaries? Are you caring for your family? Are you showing kindness to your neighbors?

If you say, "Yes" to any of these, (and so many more) you are a vital part of God's work. He doesn't need your help, but He wants it!

We are privileged every day to have the opportunity to show our gratefulness to God for the saving grace of Jesus Christ by being a part of the what He is doing here on earth. I am in awe of a God who is willing to use me!



*Turns out we have several talented piano players at our church, and one was more than willing to step in and fill in beautifully for me this Easter Sunday. I even got a text from my sister saying my son leaned over and whispered, "Ms. Carolyn doesn't pound like mom does." 😊😊😊


Wednesday, March 14, 2018

To the Moms Who are Weary

Lately Ive been a little overwhelmed with my mom job.  I find myself not having time to do the things I really enjoy doing (like writing). In fact, life as a mom is the real deal! You pour so much of yourself into your children that you are not sure there's any of you left at the end of the day.

I remember the days when my kids were babies, and I thought the lack of sleep, the never ending diapers, and the constant care was hard. "When they get a little older, it will be easier" I told myself as I struggled through another sleepless night...

Well, now they're older. And it is still hard. Not only that, it's a different hard. I know I'm in the throws, but I'm pretty sure it is harder. Heavy on the -er.

Yes, I get more sleep and I only change diapers when I'm watching my niece or nephew, but I have kids looking life in the face and I'm feeling the pressure to make sure they're ready. 

I'm realizing they're not mine forever.

And before they leave this house I want them to...

be kind
and wise
and respectful
and thinkers
and loving
and giving
to notice the unnoticed
and know who they are in Jesus.

I want them to be ready to...

lead a family
and hold a job
and manage money
and keep a house 
and serve in a church
and help their neighbors
and be a spreader of the gospel

Folks, it's a tall order. And I don't have that many actual years left with some of my kids.

So, I'm feeling overwhelmed.

Daily I'm trying to help them build good habits, instill a good  work ethic, talking them through crisis, praying for their concerns, teaching them life skills, (on top of school!) and watching as they sometimes fail and sometimes conquer.

And being a mom on top of all of it!

I was almost feeling like I needed a break from mommying. I'm just going to go ahead and admit it out loud. Some days I want to throw in the towel and just turn on the tv.

But the other day the gentle voice of the Lord reminded me, "And let us not grow weary in doing good. And let us not grow weary in doing good." I knew it had to be from the Lord because it is straight out of His Book. 

For several days this played over and over in my head, "Don't grow weary in doing good, don't grow weary in doing good."

As I thought on this Scripture I realized that this is exactly what we as moms are doing. We are doing good. Every day that you are investing time, energy, money, and everything you are into those little (and big) ones that live in your house, you, my friend, are doing good.  And even though it is, oh so wearying we're not to grow weary! 

This was a little bit of fresh air for me, but the sweet winds of relief came several days later when I remembered the last part of the verse -

".....for in due season we will reap if we do not give up." (Galatians 6:9b)

Some days I want to give up. Some days it feels like everything I am doing is in vain. Some days when I look at my kids I think, "Do they hear anything I'm saying? Have they learned anything from me??"

BUT, the truth is -  due season is coming. And it's coming faster than we want, or expect.

The principle of sowing and reaping is as true today as it was from the beginning of time. We reap what we sow.

BUT, only if we DO NOT GIVE UP! 

In the middle of this post I had to stop writing to play a game with two kids, instruct a kid in writing a paper on the importance of kindness (and listen to and correct said paper), talk to another kid about the importance of more than once daily brushing your teeth, (He says there's really no need), calm the child who lost the said game, snuggle with the kid who feels like he might puke, kiss everyone good night, and put kids to bed. All this took place in the space of about an hour. Now I'm back here sitting and writing, and thinking it's really nice to sit!

One day, sweet momma, one day we will reap all these countless hours of poured out energy and self  that we are sowing now. One day these kids are going to grow up -  they're going to start adult life, and we're going to see the things that we put into them blossoming into beautiful.

But only if we don't give up. Only if we don't grow weary in doing good.



And let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up.
Galatians 6:9